Your Body Isn’t the Problem—It’s the Messenger

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “Why do I keep dealing with this same crap different week?”—this one’s for you.

Let me be blunt: your body isn’t the problem.
Not your weight. Not your shape. Not the pain, the fatigue, the brain fog, or the way you freeze when someone asks how you’re doing.
Those are messages.
And your body? She’s been whispering them to you for years.
You just weren’t taught how to listen.


The Myth of the Broken Body

We live in a culture that treats the body like an object to fix.
We’re sold solutions to problems we didn’t invent. We’re taught to micromanage symptoms, shrink ourselves, hustle harder, or numb out.

But here’s the thing no one tells you in your average gym membership contract:
Your body is the most honest part of you.
She holds the grief you never cried, the tension you inherited from your mother’s mother, and the survival strategies you developed when you were too young to name what was happening.

When your body flares up—she’s not betraying you. She’s waving a red flag.

She’s saying:

“This isn’t safe.”
“We’re still carrying too much.”
“Can we please rest now?”


Listening Isn’t Passive—It’s Powerful

In somatic therapy, we learn to turn toward the body with curiosity instead of control.
To ask:

  • What does this tightness need?

  • Where did this pattern start?

  • Who does this belief belong to?

Sometimes what feels like stuckness or shame is actually a protector part doing its job.
Sometimes the chronic tension is your nervous system whispering: We’ve been in survival mode for decades, and we’re exhausted.

When we learn to listen—gently, slowly, without judgment—the body responds.
Not overnight. Not in a 10-day detox or a bootcamp.
But in steady, sacred ways.


What Changed for Me

I didn’t come to this work from theory—I came from survival.
Talk therapy left me circling my story without real change.
It wasn’t until I dropped into the body—through nature, parts work, creative expression, and nervous system tending—that things really started to shift.

Old shame began to melt.
Weight that had been acting like armor started to release.
And I could finally say to my body: I’m sorry I didn’t listen sooner. I’m here now.


If This Resonates…

If your body feels like a battleground…
If you’ve done the mindset work but still feel stuck…
If you’re exhausted from trying to fix yourself…

Please know:
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You don’t need to be fixed.
You need to be heard.

And that’s the work I do—with women, with youth, and with my own story every damn day.

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